I have had a running dialogue with my dad about a specific topic which, at first, really disturbed me. As I have given it more thought, I am beginning to believe his original warning nothing but true. While simplistic enough, it is a little worrisome. The thought is this, "In every relationship one person loves more than the other".
The scary realization is that I am beginning to agree with this. And I am beginning to think it's a healthy thing for relationships. I have always been one that is quick to observe, form an idea and then speak. This has helped me to keep a cool head, but has it's dark side as I am prone to over thinking. I have seen this truth happen time and time again.
As I began talking this out loud with a friend, I have begun to realize that an important aspect that I have been ignoring is the level of sacrifice. As a Christian man I can't believe I unintentionally eliminated this aspect. The ultimate act of love ends in sacrifice (there are varying levels of sacrifice). Is the amount of love someone feels for there significant other reflected in how likely they are to sacrifice (themselves, their comfort, their future)?
Coming back to where I started. It has been several years since this idea has been planted in my head and I am still trying to find an exception to the rule. As I get to know people, and couples, I start seeing the love. The caveat I am starting to see is that the gap decreases over time.
This is just an idea that I need to expound upon, so if anyone wants to add to this thought feel free to offer some input.
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